6 Ways To Get Back On Track After The Holidays

Don’t you just love the holidays? Me too!

The holidays are about spending time with your loved ones and having a good time. I sure had an amazing time catching up with the ones I love and I have no regrets about all of the indulging I did. Unfortunately , all the indulging can really take a toll on our bodies if we’re not mindful and sure to get ourselves back on track!

This holiday is different though. I’ve learned that making a few things a non- negotiable is key to looking and feeling better. I have never felt this content and in such a good place physically, mentally, and spiritually.  I believe it all stems from these key things Ive learned to implement all year round. Here are some tips on how to get yourself back on track, or simply motivate yourself to get started.

 

Don’t Panic. The scale will go back down . What’s most important is where you choose to go from here. Don’t feel bad about yourself and don’t beat yourself up because your pants fit you tighter . It’s time to refocus mentally and surround yourself with thoughts that will keep you pushing forward. It’s a new day and that means a new fresh start. If the scale has gone up, take into consideration that a lot of what you see and feel is extra water and bloating.

Hydrate. Its extremely important to hydrate more than usual. Drink up and flush those toxins out. Its even better to drink water before you decide to drink any caffeinated drinks because caffeine is a diuretic. The second I wake up in the morning, I drink water or hot water with apple cider vinegar to simply turn on my metabolism. Water is so good for our skin, our hair, our body function, and our digestion. Apple Cider Vinegar has plenty of amazing benefits including alkalizing our body, which in turn makes everything flow and work better.

Take Before Pictures. Some people are not comfortable with this and that’s ok. But there is something about taking that picture and getting your mind to refocus. I’ve been taking before and after photos all year and it sure does something  Its so hard to capture your progress when you are consistently putting in the effort on a daily basis. Pictures will show you way more than a scale can and its really nice to track your progress. Don’t even bother getting obsessed with weighing yourself each day because that will make you go crazy. Rather learn to accept what you weigh and look like, learn to love yourself and embrace the new positive changes you plan on making . As you begin your transformation, you can repeat that progress photo each month and weigh yourself once a week or once a month. Learn to seek all of the non scale victories because after all, you’re human.

Make A Plan. I truly feel this is the most important of all. Structure is key. Set a plan and take action. If you use structure, your body will take care of itself. Its as simple as that. Get back to it. Don’t over think it too much. Simply sit down, plan your week or month out. Seeing your plan will help you visualize where you’re headed and help you get there. Make it something you need to do on a weekly basis. Plan your workouts and your nutrition. I can’t even begin to explain how important this part is. I am so notorious for just going to the gym in the past and getting stuck doing the same thing over and over. Not just that, but not sticking with it! I used to start, quit, and over think things. I am currently following the 21 day fix workouts, portion control, and adding in  a mixed martial arts program called Core De Force. I slacked this weekend due to too much indulging and I will get right back to it tomorrow. My workouts come with a calender that I have posted on my refrigerator so I know each day what I need to do. I am super short on free time so at home workouts are super convenient for my schedule . The best part of planning my weeks is knowing and feeling all the progress I have made from each week as it goes by. That alone is motivating!

Moderation Not Deprivation. If you’re serious about making some healthier choices in your life-, its important that you don’t deprive yourself. Deprivation will only leave you with constant cravings and self- sabotaging episodes. I used to beat myself up mentally after I indulged when I simply was trying to deprive myself. This will only lead you to bounce back easier into your older unhealthy habits. You can’t cut out foods. Look at this change as adding and incorporating more healthier options. Find what you like and stick to it. Its important to learn moderation and balance. I am taking some time tomorrow to sit down and write out our weekly plan as both my husband and I are excited about heading into a new week planned and prepared. Learn to embrace this process because its nice to find a good balance that works best for you. Since I’ve applied moderation into my life, I have incorporated the three M’s into my life ; Move, Mindful Eating, and Minimizing. When you move more,  you get those feel good chemicals and they help regulate your moods.  When you’re happier, you’ll make healthier choices.  While eating, eat mindfully and minimize processed foods or eating out.

Motivate Yourself. There are so many ways you can motivate yourself by simply creating a vision board by  reading or finding new inspirational quotes, looking up motivation and inspiration on the internet or magazines, and refocusing on your goals. Don’t look up fitness motivation just to compare yourself. Use it as a tool to inspire and push yourself to keep moving forward. Find a way to make your vision a reality. Go out and buy yourself new workout clothes and make it fun. Join an accountability group.  Accountability groups are a fun way to get motivated and be around like- minded people. Its nice to have a private place to take it one day  at a time, surround yourself with positivity, recognize your progress, and hold yourself accountable. My next group starts January 9th and we will dial in to our nutrition and focus on setting our intentions right for the new year. To see if our groups are a good fit for you, simple comment interested here or email me at Jaclyn@TheFitHairdresser.com and I will be in contact with you.

 

 Now that you have all the tools you need, its time to go out and get it . Make your plan and choose to stick to it. Go to your nearest health food or local grocery store and buy your good proteins, your complex carbohydrates, and all that yummy delicious food so that you can stick to your plan and enjoy it. Pre cut your fruits and veggies and pre make some of your proteins you will be having for the next few days. Preparing what you have on hand makes eating healthier faster and less likely to reach for anything in sight.   I recommend buying those yummy spices so that you don’t feel like your food is bland and boring. Find new healthier options and stick to them . Get your plan together and figure out where and how you can make it all come together. Clean out your pantry and get rid of all of those trigger foods. Find your pockets of time that you will squeeze in your workouts and pencil them in. Mornings work best for me because I’m simply exhausted by the end of my days after I feed and bathe my children. If you’re anyone like me, then you are giving yourself to others all day long and never can find the time for yourself. Tell yourself that its ok to do good for others and recognize that you can’t give your best to others without feeling your best. You will feel so much better about everything as the time goes and you develop structure in your daily routine. It doesn’t happen overnight , but it all compounds together as you give it effort. Remember that progress brings happiness and it takes one meal, one workout, and one day at a time .

 

 

 

 

 

 

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5 Tips To Get Motivated

There are days when the struggle is really real. It is never easy managing mom duties, clients in the salon, my fitness business, and wife duties.But its all worth it. So many people ask me how I get my energy and how I stay motivated. To be honest, feel sluggish and tired is hard. Finding the time to make healthier choices is hard too. I just choose my hard. There are simple things you can implement into your lifestyle . Doing these 5 tips daily can change your motivation level and you will end up choosing to live your life for the better.

13015587_1314691031881539_3564858509049707074_n1.You Must Decide. You must decide to just go for it. It isn’t going to be easy nor will change happen overnight. This is a daily battle between you and your that little voice in your head says. Just because you want it to happen doesn’t mean it will happen on its own. Decide you;re going to go for it, make a game plan, and take action.truth2.Don’t Think About It As Deprivation . Let me just get real for a second. No one likes depriving themselves and thats the hardest thing to overcome. You have to look change your perspective and view this as something you are adding into your routine rather than taking out. Think about the positive you are adding into your life. This is going to help you get healthier and fit. Maybe you need to add more veggies or fruit? Maybe you need to add more water? Maybe you just need to add in better portions? You have to take this journey one day a time and one step at a time in the right direction.

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3.Create Vision For Yourself. Create a visual or a vision board.Set realistic expectations for yourself and choose activities you enjoy and build from there. You are more likely to stick to it. If you are just getting started, decide that this is going to be the year for you. Decide to commit despite whatever challenges or distractions come your way because those will always be there. Decide that you are in charge of how you will wake up each day and you choose healthy instead of depriving yourself. Create the vision in your head and in front of you. Set those big goals for yourself and come up with a game plan as to how you will get yourself to that goal. Don’t just set your goals and never take action. Choose to document your journey through writing or blogging so that you will have the opportunity to look back only to see your progress.

image4.No Negative Self Talk. It’s time to start loving yourself again. Its time to stop saying things like ” I have to workout or else I failed ” or ” I really wish I didn’t eat that ” Saying things like this to yourself just sets yourself up for negative self talk and lack of belief in yourself. You are what you say to yourself and its time to start rewiring your brain. You are a work in progress and progress is compounded within time and not overnight. The minute you start thinking negative, its important to shift your thought by thinking and replacing it with something positive. You will have to do this all the time and eventually you will be able to see how much you’ve grown. Don’t beat yourself up if you make a plan to workout in the morning or after work and it doesn’t happen. There will be days like this. It’s important to be proud of your progress and how much you are really trying. If you’re skipping out on doing what you need to be doing for watching mindless tv or scrolling the newsfeed, then create a new system for yourself.cants-into-cans5.Just Start. Learn to work harder than you did yesterday. Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job. Doing this will naturally make you better at your job. Just like one of my mentors says, ” If you work hard on your job, you can make a living. If you work harder on yourself, you can make a fortune by multiplying your value ”

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You have the power to make a change. Each day we get to choose our hard. We all have excuses and things that will come up. There will be times we blame it on our resources and find a reason we can’t get something done. But it’s our choice to live in those excuses and convince ourselves along with others that our excuses are valid. You can also choose to set those excuses aside and just go for it. When you validate your e

 

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Fall Into A New You

It’s a new week, a new month, and a new way to recharge and re focus! No room for excuses here .  We are about to start our new Fall Into A New You Health and Fitness group and I thought Id share a few of my favorite time saving tips to plan out your week and make it successful nutrition wise while on the go . If you don’t plan out your days, you will set yourself up for failure. Its time for the leggings and boots! I personally LOVE this time of year! But it’s also the start of that time of the year where we start to allow that extra layer start to find its place on our bodies again to prepare for the months and holiday’s ahead. You are going to get on track , stay on track , and rock those skinny jeans and leggings!

I have my eyes on my goals and I’m ready to keep pushing ! Yesterday was my cheat day so game on!! Balance is key but make sure you hop right back on right away or else you start feeling low energy and lack even more motivation! Plus your clothes will fit tighter Blah!! Don’t let yourself fall off track even more because it will get harder .

Our private 21 day health and fitness group will begin on October 3rd . For 21 days, you will get the motivation , accountability , and support to start making those positive changes and STICK TO THEM!!!

Here are a few of my favorite top time saving tips below 

 

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Day 1 Insanity Max 30

I am a big believer in planning. Im sure you’ve heard the term ” Fail to plan , plan to fail “. I truly feel like meal planning is the most important part of your week. Further more, I believe we must raise our own bar! We have to raise our standards for life in general. I have some goals Im trying to accomplish throughout the rest of the year and one of them is to complete Insanity Max 30 even after a surgery Im having. This is the time of year when those extra lbs start to creep up and we get so tempted to dig in to all the holiday food.

If you’re just getting started in your fitness journey or you’re well on your way to your goals, you already know how important it is to have a plan for your day! If you don’t have a plan, its basically setting yourself up for failure. I just finished completing my fitness program Hammer & Chisel. It was amazing. I enjoyed every second of it because I worked every muscle in my body. I have seen a huge difference in my body so Im a little curious to see how well I do following Sean T!

Pre Hammer & Chisel
Pre Hammer & Chisel

I am so excited to start Insanity Max 30! What I like is that it’s not a fad diet. Its simple clean eating and portion control. In fact, this is what I love about all of the fitness programs I’ve done. Not one has you starving yourself and its about keeping it simple . Most people don’t know proper portions. We are so programmed to eat what is on our plates. Im going to dial in hard with my nutrition this month and really focus on getting results for myself and our team.

Insanity Max 30 comes with two types of plans. Plan A and plan B. I will be following plan A and I must track my food with my food tracker each day . It feels nice when I know that Im tracking and logging my food. I don’t have all the time to sit and track my meals because lets just face it, Im a working mom of two little ones! I set some time on sundays to sit for an hour and plan my week out, and track my food! If I can do this, so can you! My meal guide suggests that I eat 5 meals a day : breakfast, lunch, dinner , and two snacks. This is how I usually eat so I know Im going to love this . Its about keeping it real and keeping it simple! I will be using my portion control containers to make my life easier and portion out my food the right way.

Each day Im supposed to be consuming 3 servings of a veggie option, 2 servings of fruits, 4 servings of proteins, two carb servings, 1 healthy fat and 1 seeds/ dressings options. I  think I can manage this! I definitely feel a difference in my body when I plan and take action. I will still be having my coffee , but Im considering switching to black this month. Tea and coffee are not bad for you. They’re both filled with anti- oxidants, which reduce symptoms of stress. Maybe thats  why Im so addicted to coffee! Tea and coffee promote fat burning , they have no calories as long as you don’t load them with cream and sugar!

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After Hammer & Chisel Day 90

Im so excited to get started on this new journey! I’ve come such a long way when it comes to loving myself for who I am and accepting my flaws. All I know is that even before I had kids, I never had the confidence to rock a two piece. I may have all of my stretch marks, but they reflect the kind of woman I am. I am strong. I am bold. I am me.

It’s not too late to join us . We are kicking off October to a great start. We will be dialing in to our nutrition together, I will be sharing nutrition tips , recipes , and ideas on how to overcome emotional eating and excuses.

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Reasons Why Working Out At Home Is Great

Before having my second child, I was really into going to the gym. In fact, I used to be totally skeptical about getting in shape at home. I never really believed I could find the motivation to self discipline myself enough to get the ball rolling ! It wasn’t until reality sank in after having my second child. I wasn’t going to get the body I wanted by just wishing and wanting. I knew that just because I have kids doesn’t give me the reason to put my health last. I needed to do something . I needed somewhere to relieve my stress on the inside . I couldn’t just pack my bag and head out . My child didn’t like the gym and he also has a disease that makes him super susceptible to illnesses.

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I saw that a friend of mine woke up each day at worked out at home. Every day she posted about her workout and how great she felt. I thought to myself ” If she can do this with two kids, I can do this too.” . Once I made the decision to set all excuses aside, it all changed from there . My life got better. I got better.  I wake up each morning now craving my 30 minute workout and I can say that I’m in the best shape I’ve ever been in even before having kids.
Here are a few reasons why working out at home is great. 
Cuts time in half. What I mean by this is just how it sounds. For busy people like myself, we don’t always have the luxury in being able to go to the gym, take our time and come back home to shower. Working out at home gives me the flexibility to get it done right away and shower right away. I used to be filled with excuses as to how and why I never had time. It’s about making the time.
Creepy staring. Every single time I go to the gym I feel as though men and even woman just stare. It’s easy to zone out and get inside your own world, but anytime you look up and look around , there’s always someone staring.
Dirty machines . Yuck! Some people bring their own towels which is great and most gyms provide the towels these days. But I can’t tell you how many people I come across that don’t wipe down their sweat.
You won’t get bored . I’m not kidding. This was one of my excuses. I found a way I could have access to so many different programs at once and on the days I don’t feel like following what’s scheduled for that day, I get to switch things up on myself and have something new to follow. When at the gym, if you don’t have a trainer , it’s easy to get into the same routine of doing the same thing over and over again.
You can dance your heart out . Yes. Music soothes the soul. I love music. Just because  you decide to commit to an at home workout doesn’t mean you need to actually listen to the trainer . I love blasting music and dancing while I workout . I definitely don’t have the confidence to dance my heart out at the gym.
You can scream. You can give your workout your all. You can push hard in the comfort of your own home with no one watching . You can dim the lights. You set your tone for the workout . You can switch it up and have something new to follow each day.
Flexibility. You can let the kids play or get your workout in while they sleep. One of the first excuses most people have is that they can’t workout with their kids around. I used to be one of them. I found that actually making my workout a priority in my life has been the game changer. My kids look forward to my workouts. They love participating and they love walking away and playing . I always give them something to do and yes , of course I put a movie on. It’s called distraction. Some mom’s can judge me on this one and I don’t care. 30 minutes a day is way worth a mom having a positive and healthy mindset. I found that I prefer waking up before anyone wakes up because it gives me the chance to actually squeeze in an hour to myself. You make time for what’s most important to you. Sometimes I sleep in, but I always regret not waking up and chasing my dreams.
I’m so happy that I found fitness programs that provide nutrition and support. The gyms don’t do that. They will only do that if you pay a lot of money for a trainer. The programs I love to follow guarantee you results or else you will get your money back. They also provide you support such as finding people who are also committing to working out at home, changing their habits and sharing tips with one another . The gym definitely doesn’t do that . With these programs, you also learn how to dial into your nutrition and learn where you struggle most and how to fix it. I am not perfect, but Im learning  as I go.
If you ever find yourself stuck in the same routine or you simply need to switch things up a bit, don’t hesitate to reach out to me. I love being able to share this amazing journey and community with others. Coming from someone who used to be in a bad place both mentally and physically, I know first hand how much these programs can change your life too. Just because someone is busy and full of other commitments , doesn’t mean that they don’t deserve to feel amazing. If your health and mental state is important to you, find the time to put yourself at the top of your to do list .
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How To Get Back On Track

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It happens to the best of us. A few great days (or even weeks) of following your fitness and nutrition plan and then—BANG—life happens. A late night out with friends, a last-minute business trip, a sick child at home, or something as simple as a bad mood can force you off the path. Maybe you’ve missed your fitness session. Maybe you simply don’t have the energy (or desire) to prepare a healthy meal. Regardless, you’ve hit a wall. You’re having an “off” day.
Sometimes an off day is just that means you are just one day off track. You wake up the next morning back to being motivated and focused on your goals. Other times, it can take several days to regain your fitness mojo. At these moments, off days can be vicious—but they can also be stopped. The important thing is to have a support system where you can rely on them to help lift you up at these times.

If you splurged and ate bad over the weekend, please don’t beat yourself up. It’s not the end of your road and it’s definitely not going to make you gain your weight back. Most importantly , it’s not a reason to keep splurging simply because it crossed your mind that you already splurged so why not some more . Been there and done that. You get no where .

Here are a few of my top tips when it comes to getting back on track with your health and fitness .

Avoid the scale 

Don’t even look at it. Don’t do this to yourself. If you’re normal like me, then you will likely gain a few lbs with just a few heavy meals! If you really ate and drank as much as you think you did, you’ll probably be dealing with bloating, water retention and poor digestion. don’t even go near the scale. Give yourself a few days away from it. Get up at your regular time, do everything else you normally do, but just don’t even look at your scale. I don’t care how “curious” you are, if you step on that thing, you will probably be disappointed!

Drink plenty of water today

Especially if your days included alcohol or super rich foods. You need to not only rehydrate your body, but drinking plenty of water will help you refresh and flush out your system. Sure, you’re going to end up in the bathroom quite often all day if you’re drinking tons of water, but that’s okay! Just keep drinking that water. Think of it as your body’s little “reset button.” (Plus, if you’re walking to the bathroom all the time, that’s extra steps in your day, FitBit Users REJOICE

Plan out your meals

That first day after trying to get back on track is one of the most important days to really plan out what you’re going to eat. After you’ve fed your body the junk food and consumed all the items that you normally don’t, your willpower might be a little weaker than normal, so if you don’t have a plan, you’re probably more likely to say yes when someone offers you that cupcake or agree to go out to that fast food joint for lunch. So before you give yourself that chance, make a plan! Make it something that you will look forward to. Remember how good you feel when you’re on track.

Make your plan clean

The day after a true splurge, or even a full-on food binge, especially when you’ve been eating healthy for a while, you may feel sick. You may feel super full or even hung over. eating clean is vital at this point! Eating clean will help your body recover and properly fuel you. Your body will feel better. Put those fruits and veggies to work! Get that lean protein into your body! Keep drinking that water! And if you’re like me, starting off your day with shakeology is the best way to jump start a day of clean eating!

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Let it go!

No one is going to be perfect all the time. Even the most disciplined people we know still remember that once in a while, it’s totally okay and even encouraged to let go and have a little fun once in a while. We live in a world where there are temptations everywhere. If I expected you to avoid them all, 100% of the time, that would just be silly. Just because you slipped up one day doesn’t mean you can’t get back up and headed in the right direction. Let it go! Focus on the positive. Did you have fun when you were eating the “bad food?” Did you enjoy your company? Did you laugh? Did you smile? Did you not feel a single bit of regret until the night was over? If the answer is yes, then guess what, you’re normal!

Don’t think too much about how much you’ve missed or how you feel at the moment . Focus on the good and focus on how great you will feel once you give yourself atleast 15 minutes of a workout. It only takes about 10 minutes into a workout to start feeling great again. Cut yourself some slack because you’re a work in progress. Just don’t give up because it gets even harder the longer you wait . If you happen to need extra support or just someone to talk to,  reach out to me. Id be happy to help out.

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If You Want Change, You Have To Believe In Yourself

Our biggest fear is failure.  People can be so quick to give up on themselves, quit or throw in the towel!  Don’t view failing that way. Just because you failed at something does not make YOU a failure!! There is a difference. It’s not about the mistakes and failures you have in life, but it has EVERYTHING to do with how you handle them!! Learn and grow from your situation.  This is what determines your outcome, and determines whether you move forward in life or remain the same. commited

The ONLY way to FAIL is if YOU quit, stop, or do nothing. Instead, use these mistakes and failures as moments you learn and grow from! What can you learn from this to become better?  Some things have happened to me in my personal life lately which have reminded me how important it is to ground myself when my life seems off balance. It’s ok to step away from one thing and revisit the other that seems to be off balance. At this point in my life, I truly feel as though there is no such thing as the perfect work, life and family balance. There is no such thing as that picture perfect life. Most people paint this facade and in reality, they are the ones afraid to reveal who they really are. Your happiness matters and it feels good to be real and be true to yourself. There will be people who question you or who think their route is the way to go. There will be people who simply don’t understand and never will. Then there are the people who have no drive what so ever and want to just settle for the easy way.  There will also be the people who you once thought were your friends, yet they were nowhere when you really needed them the most.  We all are on our own journey. Just smile, run with the willing, and don’t waste your time dwelling on what didn’t happen. What works for someone else , might not work for you. The most important thing is that you keep pushing forward and don’t stop fighting for what you want or believe in.Forget the nay sayers or the opinions of others. Those will always be there. Everyone has an opinion. One thing Im learning is that I don’t have to sit around and accept those opinions and let them get to me. I am in control of my life. I choose how I want to react to situations.   There is no straight line to success with anything in life. It’s a jagged road with bumps, cliffs, twists and turns…..boy do I know this already! But if you can make it through all of that,  the destination will be BEAUTIFUL and so worth it!!IMG_0229

Take it one day at a time! Don’t be afraid to fail!! If you are not failing, then you are not GROWING! We only have one life and we should all be encouraging each other to be better and do better things in this world! The best way to succeed is to help others. Just like one of my favorite mentors says, ” The secret to living is giving.”  Never stop learning and always do more. Don’t settle for mediocrity. It all starts with being OK with making mistakes and failing. We fall, we learn from our mistakes, we redirect and we take that knowledge and use it to MOVE FORWARD. The most successful people in this world, are the ones who FAILED the most. Always remind yourself why you are working so hard and keep pushing yourself.  I know my why, do you?

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The Importance of Self Talk

“In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.”

One of the biggest topics I enjoy talking about in my challenge groups is the power of self-talk. Self  talk is one of the most important things we should all focus on when it comes to becoming the highest versions of ourselves. When we speak negative of ourselves, we are opening up that door.

One of the most powerful influences on your attitude and personality is what you say to yourself. It is not what happens to you, but how you respond internally to what happens to you. By controlling your inner dialogue, or your “self talk,” you can assert control over every part of your life.

Keep a positive attitude. There is nothing more powerful for self-motivation than the right aIMG_1569ttitude. You can’t choose or control your circumstances, but you can choose your attitude towards your circumstances.

Once you feel you are motivated yourself, the best thing to do is to start motivating others. But guess what? Motivation comes and goes. Its about creating the habit and seeing results in any area of your life . Thats where the motivation comes from. Positivity is contagious and there isn’t enough out there.  If people catch your passion, you’ll find it will drive you to new heights of accomplishment. Support and encourage others, be the cheerleader. Don’t be negative and bitter.

Whenever I find Im having a dark day, or a day with lack of motivation, I  choose a personal development book to begin reading or listening to. As a mom of two little ones, I don’t always get the time to sit and read a book when I want. When I do, I love it. Reading for a 15 minutes to a  half hour each morning has done so much for me personally and can do so much to help with keeping us more positive and moving in the right direction! It’s another huge piece of the puzzle that creates personal content.  Its not just about the outside, its about the inside too.”What the mind believes, the body achieves.” We have to remember to fuel our minds with positive too!

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Walking Into The Unknown

Sometimes its easy to let up and let go of whats keeping us together . Challenges are always waiting for us and we have the power of choice. We have the power to decide which way we will go.

These last few weeks have been a world wind of emotions for me. Ive had the amazing opportunity to travel fort business and meet a lot of people overcoming the unthinkable and really dig deep into the leader I am becoming. Ive been thinking a lot lately and the good thing is that my vision has never been so clear to me. It’s amazing how sometimes our path changes or something steers us in a different direction. For me, that was when my second child was born. He has taught me so much about myself and he’s still so little. I remember the day of my scheduled c section so clearly. But only the beginning to say the least. I wanted complete control . I had everything planned out. I wanted things a certain way and I wanted no formula. I thought everything would be easy the second time around. This picture is the day I was able to get Elijah transferred to a new hospital and our very first helicopter ride together. IMG_0105

My son was admitted into the NICU for 5 weeks following birth. It changed me. Doctors couldn’t really tell me exactly why my son kept losing oxygen or why he his heart rate kept dropping so much.Each day was an emotional roller coaster. The feeling each day of having to leave my baby was horrific. Yet I knew he was at the right place.  Test after test determined his heart condition he was born with had anything to do with the loss of oxygen. I still had no answers. It was all such a mess and so unexplainable. I refused to let more days go by and demanded more and more tests . I was his advocate. I questioned everything. I was lost in a dark cloud and trying to hold myself together . My mom was also recovering from breast cancer. I needed to stay strong for our daughter and for my husband who was also a mess at the time. We soon found out it was something called laryngomalacia and it turned out to be something he could eventually outgrow. We went home with my son feeling incredibly blessed, happy to have our family together, and I was scared . How was I going to manage? My life has never been the same and I know why .

I don’t like comparing my kids to other people’s kids. I don’t care if your child can read before mine or he/ she knows the abc first. I don’t sweat the small stuff anymore. I go with the flow and accept each day that it is. Ive also come to find that I don’t run the days because everything can change in an instant.  I choose to surround myself with people who will be positive and not complain about life because I used to.  I used to complain about everything. I was so immature. Elijah has taught me so much about becoming someone new and never being ashamed of who I am or what I believe in. Its ok to try new things and to live. I must be accepting of my own self too.  Elijah has taught me compassion. I don’t care about anyone’s opinions of me or the mom I strive to be. Im not anywhere near perfect. Im actually a mess sometimes and have to write everything down because I will forget.  All I know is that we are all on our own journey, and our happiness is not  something we should postpone for the future. It is something we should design for the present. We must constantly try our best to remain present.

Everything is starting to change. I am amazed at how a trial can create such a heart of gratitude in me. But, I think gratefulness is the thing that I have learned a lot. I have so much gratitude in my heart and looking at life just a bit differently has been a game changer. My son is currently seeking therapy due to developmental delays. This was scary for me at first as I have one child who was always so independent and advanced from day 1. Its almost as if each day is different and all we do is try to focus on week by week. He’s made so much progress , but let me tell you, a mom never stops worrying. I need to rewind my thoughts and worries and just keep focusing on being a better mom for him. Elijah will soon be transitioning from the services he’s getting to the school district . I am doing my research and trying to find more answers. I worry about his balance issues . I worry about his walking. I worry more about the receptors in his ears. I worry about his speech and vision. I worry about everything. I am ensuring that he is getting the best care and the best resources. I love my kids so much and I choose to be here with them. This time is passing and what Ive found  most important is my sanity. I must continue to love myself too.

IMG_5231Taking care of myself both mentally and physically has helped mold me into the person I am today. I am not perfect. I struggle and I have bad days where  I just want to lose it. But I thank God every single day that I have this amazing man in my life, and a beautiful family. I couldn’t ask for anything else. But what I do know is that what one wants and seeks, one must do. We can’t sit around and ask or dwell on things. We must literally be willing to get out there and work hard for those things.

Taking care of myself has given me the belief in myself again. Self image is so important in the sense where we should continuously try to be the best version of ourselves so that we can constantly look into the future and work toward it. We must be willing to walk into the unknown . I host monthly health and fitness support groups because I know first hand that every person needs the support. Living a healthy lifestyle and striving to be fit requires mindset and belief. Having a private place to come to and share your tips, ideas and motivation has done wonders for me and I simply love just passing on the love now.

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Life is Beautiful

I can’t believe how much my life has changed in a year! Seriously! This time last year, my husband and I were getting settled into our new mortgage payment on top of having some unforeseen financial circumstances. I know it could’ve been worse, but having a new home, a legal matter that drained our finances , two young children and bills can get pretty stressful. I’ve learned that happiness doesn’t stem from how much money you make or how much time you can put into being home with your kids.   I believe we have the ability to draw out our own happiness and for everyone it may be different. I thought I was happy because I had it all. A new home, a job I love with all my heart, children , health, a loving husband,  but I felt something was missing. I was missing. I didn’t even know who I was anymore!

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The lack of sleep , the mommy guilt, the dirty diapers, and the long nursing sessions…. I didn’t even want to spend time with my husband because I was so tired. My second had and still has a habit in being extra clingy. I wasn’t used to this as my first was always so independent from day 1.  I know I sound like Im complaining and I promise Im not. I love my kids with all my heart. I cherish every single day with them even on the tough days. But when you have a child with an airway disease, you happen to be on constant ” fight or flight ” mode. I found myself feeling so negative and scared all the time . I felt guilty that I wasn’t paying enough attention to my first child. I felt so overwhelmed with trying to balance out my professional life with my home life. I questioned my parenting. As a hairdresser, clients want to know your business. A true professional says the least amount possible . I felt like I was a professional and pretending I was doing great.  Doctors and specialists appointments felt as though they were scheduled every week. I adopted the negative mindset due to al my fears and worries constantly taking over.

One day, I decided it was time to put my health first. It all started with a challenge pack . I was sick and tired of feeling so lost. I don’t care what anyone says . I know having baby is the biggest blessing in the world. Of course it is. When your second comes around, you think you have it all figured out because your like ” ok I got this ” But  I was wrong . Im learning to just ” Let go and let God “. The investment I made on myself that day has been the best investment Ive ever made on myself.

When I first started my 21 day fix program, I told myself I couldn’t do this .I couldn’t find the motivation to push play. I didn’t have time to go to the gym. When I did, I always found myself doing the same boring routine or didn’t know what to do. Not to mention, my insecurities were to the fullest . I was a constant negative Nancy and of course I would never admit that. I had zero time to plan and take action. Ultimately, I kept hurting myself. I had every excuse in the book.  When I pushed play, the kids weren’t used to it, so they wanted to jump on me. They were excited and then they wanted my attention… of course they did . You know how kids are. But I stayed consistent by staying true to my thoughts and little goals I set for myself. My kids started to look forward to seeing mommy workout. Then it dawned on me that I really needed to work out before my day officially started.  I constantly reminded myself that the real change wouldn’t happen unless I changed. I stopped making the excuses and put myself first.

This is not a selfish thing to do . I believe its essential . Im  happy and my marriage is on track again. I have more energy for my husband, my kids,and I found myself again. The balance will always be a struggle. I go through moments where everything family picis great and then all of a sudden, one area in my life needs extra attention. So i roll with it. I go along with the different seasons in my life and i prioritize whats most important each day. Im not the old person I used to be. Ive seen how bad things can change over night. Our lives aren’t promised and I don’t ever want to die feeling unfulfilled.  I believe that when you go through some of your toughest times, its up to you to use it as a bridge to walk across rather than to barricade yourself.

I think this is why being a coach means so much to me. I believe that living a healthy lifestyle is essential for optimal health and wellness. It doesn’t matter what workouts you do, as long as you move for at least 30 minutes and eat foods that fuel your body rather than deplete your energy. I don’t believe in taking medicine to control my appetite, stimulants to give me more energy, or supplements to make me lose weight faster. I believe in whole food nutrition and I know thats why I love shakeology so much. When I first signed up to be a coach, I did it for my discount .But then I found out that I was motivating others to get up and go. People could relate to me . What makes me happy is helping others see that they too can change. Coaching is about being yourself, growing to your highest potential, and simply sharing with others what this lifestyle can do . Coaching is something that isn’t easy, but the reward is greater.  Im not perfect. Im a work in progress who still tries to be controlling in my own ways. I’m working on these flaws. But I love myself and I know who I am. Im a mom and a wife who loves to help others. Ive never been so connected with the woman I am today . I love my life . Im so blessed .

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