Parenting With A Speech And Language Delay

These last couple of months have been such a huge stepping stone for my little man and such a huge emotional and spiritual breakthrough for myself. The biggest issue I have is how hard I am on myself as a mother  and that is something that I am working on . I find owning my truth to really help me cope.

I still remember the day I went in for my child’s psychological exam results and hearing the woman tell me that my child scored low enough to be able to diagnose him with mild intellectual delay. In my defense , I let her know that she barely knew my child and simply sat in a room with him for one hour. He was having an off day. She suggested I be OK with the diagnosis on paper in order to get my child qualified for additional services through our local regional center. I found out that this would allow my son to qualify for services for as long as he needs them.  I walked out of that office really confused and upset because I don’t believe my child is intellectually delayed. I cried a lot  and I was so confused. Yet I questioned myself because I also do not want to sound like a mom who is over reactive and in denial. Its hard to explain this to someone who has never been through it. Everyone has an opinion and all that matters is what we as parents choose to do for our child.

After giving it a few days and talking it over with my husband, we agreed to move forward with the intent of being able to get him qualified for all the services he needs. Will this affect his future? Will this be a for sure diagnosis ? Will my son be able to be mainstreamed and be in a regular school setting ? Everything was piling up in my head and to this day it still does. After asking all of the many questions we had, we decided to do whats best for our son. My son has a language and speech delay and he is the most amazing and perfect little soul. Because he is delayed in this area, he scored low in his receptive and expressive language as well. I also believe that because he was in the NICU for 5 weeks and lost a lot of oxygen , it delayed him in some areas. He didn’t have the easiest first month of life. He actually struggled to breathe many times before he was able to come home. He is so smart and understands what you tell him. I can stand there with him and have a conversation with him and he eagerly tries to express himself. I’m his momma and I am his everything. When he was a baby, I taught him a few signs and that really helped us a lot in the beginning. My son is not intellectually delayed. In fact, he is extra special and such a smart and loving child.

For the longest time I doubted that there was an issue. Boys just develop later than girls. All kids are different and grow at their own pace. The first two years of my sons life consisted of the many doctors appointments, lack of sleep, paperwork, tests, specialist visits, physical therapy, early intervention, speech therapy, and occupational therapy. I was exhausted. I still am at times . But then something just clicked.

I realized that speech and language delays are super common. I realized I needed to get myself together and stand tall. I also realized that there is a huge amount of other parents going through the same feeling I have. I have to be at my best and feel my best if I want to raise these two beautiful humans God has blessed us with. No matter how much I questioned everything, how in denial I was, how tired I was, how unhappy I felt, and how sluggish I felt, I needed to get it together for my kids. Who cares if I have to cut back on hours at the salon. Who cares if I have to have a lower paycheck so that I can be home and present with my kids. Who cares about everything else in my life. What matters is living in the moment and being here for my kids because today will eventually be the past. The minute I decided to openly talk about this, everyone had a suggestion. Everyone has an opinion.  Ultimately it comes down to you as the parent. You know whats best for your child and no one else. Your child is normal and everyone has issues. You just have to work on your issues a lot more than others.

Throughout the early stages of this journey I found my love for health and wellness. I came across a fellow mom’s positive post about how good she was feeling and I felt envious. I felt awful about myself, my body, my marriage, and I was tired of being tired all the time. That was when I drew the line in the sand. I decided to try my first fitness program, the 21 day fix. I fell in love with the results  and decided to try to pay it forward. Why not.  I never knew this was capable as I have absolutely no background in fitness other than being out of shape and wanting to be healthy. But I believe God brought me this new venture because he knows I need to feel my best and I needed a positive outlet. He knows that I can use this platform to connect with other people who have felt the same.

I started to get my life back. Then my stress and anxiety started to get so much better. I started getting results in all areas of my life. Once it became clear to me that my son was delayed in some areas, I became more aware of the many issues we were experiencing in our household and it all started to make sense. I finally let my guard down and decided to be more open about this.  The frustration was picking up and the tantrums can get really bad from the frustration. Once he gets to a certain point of frustration, its impossible to get his attention until I let him calm down. The sensory seeking became something I was now aware of and started to educate myself about. The world of sensory seeking is extremely common with kids who have extra needs.  This little guy loves to bite anything and everything. He ruined our brand new blinds with all of his teeth marks. To this day he loves to put everything in his mouth. Its a  coping mechanism. It all started to make sense and as much as I get frustrated too, I hold myself together and knee down to his level and try to put myself in his shoes. I repeat myself over and over and I ask him to do the same. It’s not his fault and its important that I tell myself that its not my fault either. I am an amazing mom to both my son and daughter. We are doing the best we can. He is making so much progress with the weekly therapy sessions and I know that we see and hear so much progress each and every week. What bothers me is when people tell me he looks normal and he is normal. Ofcourse he is normal. He just have some extra needs . He is no different. In fact, he is extra special.

This is a journey of its own and I try to remember that its important to sneak away and spend alone the time with my daughter too. I think I’m doing a really good job at that. I found out that I really love being a entrepreneur and for the longest time I was so hard on myself about this. Its ok to want to build two businesses and deal with all these issues too. I feel like I have been given this incredible platform to show other people that everything is going to be ok . I am walking proof that you can be an amazing parent, a business builder , and a good wife all at once. You can have it all . I do not believe in balance as much as before . I believe in molding it all together as much as you can though .

Health and wellness are crucial if you want to live a healthy and fulfilling life. Health is wealth. Not monetary items. I love that I am now building this incredible team of other woman who are on their own journey as well. We empower one another, life each other up, and hold each other accountable.

If you find yourself feeling sick and tired of feeling tired all the time like I did, lets talk. I would be more than happy to show you how you can start your journey too. Fill out this form https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdLcQFt3ZRiqXQdmfT5nT_9Eh3rqsvZDbttJT-MD7res-La_g/viewform?usp=sf_link and we will be in contact. No matter how hard life gets or how much you are going through, it starts with that decision to make the change for yourself. Its like that saying ” In order for things to get better, you have to be better ” and I agree.

I know that all of this is a gift and I’m so grateful. I have no idea what to do sometimes or how to even express these feelings I have. Im learning to accept what is and only change what I can change.  Writing about it and sharing helps. Deflecting my positive energy on to others helps. But I don’t expect most to understand. The journey is priceless and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m happy I get to work from home and spend the days with my children while providing an additional income . I’m looking forward to summer time and I plan on really creating some awesome memories with the kids. I’m so full of gratitude and I love my life. My daughter just graduated from  kindergarten and she is the sweetest little girl with the biggest heart,  smile,  and imagination. My son is healthy and thriving. My marriage is special and my love is so supportive and such an amazing dad. I get to wake up feeling fulfilled each day. It doesn’t get any better than this. I am blessed.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Make This Year Your Healthiest Ever

It’s a new month and new beginning. Every day is a new opportunity to start fresh and don’t you ever stop believing that you cannot get the results you want. Whatever goals, results , and progress you’re trying to make in your life , know that progress equals happiness. Progress equals results. Let today be the day you draw your line in the sand and make it YOUR day 1. Commit to making this your best year ever.  I wanted to drop in and spread the word on Beachbody’s biggest sale EVER!

 

Have you ever heard of Beachbody On Demand ?

This is what I have and it’s what I use on a DAILY basis 🙂 Beachbody On Demand is one of the newest features where you can stream EVERY single program that Beachbody has released! This also includes all the newest and yet to be released programs coming in 2017! You can stream from your phone, laptop, iPad , or any other streaming divide. ( Apple TV, Roku, Chrome, Firestick, etc. )

 

I love my All Access On Demand because it allows me to customize my fitness program to my needs on a daily and weekly basis, it gives me all of the nutrition guides, program manuals and tracking sheets plus the Fixate Cooking Show which helps you navigate the nutrition plan and then you are connected with me as your coach in my challenge groups to help you start, troubleshoot along the way and get the results that you want! I love it!! I truly feel like I am able to help YOU customize your program and help YOU get amazing results.

 

With that being said, this challenge pack used to be $199 and it’s currently on special for only $160! This is HUGE and a good bang for your buck! You are getting over $6K in workouts! But Beachbody is doing a Spring Into Fitness Promotion starting TODAY.

This is what you get:

Beachbody On Demand All Access for 1 full year
A 30 Day Supply of Shakeology
The Portion Fix program
Access into my Spring Into Fitness Accountability and Support Group in April
Discounted price and shipping all for $160 US (previously at $199 + tax and shipping)
That is seriously amazing!!!!! The amount of value is just mind blowing! Plus I know that Team Beachbody is getting ready to release a ton of great new programs and you don’t want to miss out on them in your library!

Just send me a MESSAGE and LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU ORDERED and if you would like to join the April 17th Spring Into Fitness Challenge Group with me as your coach!!!

Purchase The All Access Challenge Pack As A Customer

Purchase the All Access Challenge Pack & Jump Start Your Results With the 3 Day Refresh

For additional questions please don’t hesitate to ask. Just let me know when you do make a purchase so I can add you into my current accountability group!!!

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My Life As An Extra Needs Parent And A Female Entrepreneur

Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go , just remember how far you have come. Remember everything you have faced, all the battles you have won, and all the fears you have overcome.

Its seems like I’ve been stuck in my own head a lot lately. We all get like this from time to time right ?  Between the  constant worries and daily battles, I sometimes feel defeated. Its easy to want to curl up in a ball and lock myself in my  room. The constant juggling can catch up to me from time to time and my fears tend to kick in.

Is my son going to be ok ? Am I being a good mom ? Willy I be able to put him in a mainstream class? What if nobody understands him in preschool ? How is he going to defend himself ? Am I paying more attention to one more than the other? Am I showing my husband enough attention ? Am I showing my daughter enough attention ? Will I be as successful as I aim to be ? Is it ok to want to grow my business and still be a good mom ? Am I putting in my part in this marriage ?  I get to thinking and my reasoning keeps coming back to me. Why do I strive for more?  I strive for more so that I can be here for my kids. My kids are my why. My kids are the reason I want to take care of myself. My kids are the reason I want to build my businesses.

Elijah’s journey has been a whole journey  within itself. I’m still shocked that my son qualifies for services after the age of 3. Why does this bother me so much ? Well for starters, being the parent in these shoes is something difficult to be in.  Its even more difficult when you really don’t know what the diagnosis is or if there is even a diagnosis . The beauty of qualifying for services is that I know we are getting him all of the intervention that will benefit him later on . I feel like he is doing great. I can see that the intense therapy he receives is making a difference in his life . I’m exhausted and I sometimes want to lose it. Between having to muster up more patience than I thought I could ever have to constantly to explaining  myself over and over, I love my son. It doesn’t matter whether or not he is diagnosed with anything . I just want answers. I just want to make sure I’m doing all that I can . Truth is, Im not in control . I run my day, yes. But God runs my life. Upon some research, I found that my son can possibly have a genetic mutation and that can be the cause of his laryngomalacia. I am going to ask for genetic testing to be done once this new schedule of ours settles in.

I truly believe my son has delays because of all the lack of oxygen he went through his first month of life . I will never know.  When people see him , they see a beautiful little boy full of love and life. That’s exactly who he is. He is such a precious and loving soul who adores his mama. Its easy for anyone to mention their opinion or advice too. After all, that’s just society. Everyone has an opinion. But no one knows my life more than myself. I know my kid better than anybody else.   Having a child with laryngomalacia and delays in other areas can be emotionally exhausting. But as a mom, we do what we have to do . We commit to making our child’s needs a priority because we love them and want what’s best for them. Its ok to be scared. Its ok to worry. Its ok to not know what’s next. I have to accept that its ok to be a mom who has a child with extra needs. Extra needs is extra needs and it doesn’t matter the severity of the needs. Extra needs is extra needs . The constant talks with therapists and specialists, the frequent doctors visits, and the never ending reports. It never ends. You almost wonder if it ever will. Its easy to get stuck in your own head and worry. But when I look into my son’s eyes, I see my little champ. My son is so bright, so loving, and so determined to get his point across. He sure is showing us that he understands what we are saying and he truly tries to communicate back. When I look into my daughters eyes, I see a little girl who loves her mommy and daddy. I see a sister who loves her brother unconditionally.  His vocabulary is growing and he is starting to get physically stronger. I just signed him up for gymnastics and I think this is going to be better than weekly physical therapy sessions. The core and balance work is going to be great for him . Deep down, I feel so blessed and honored to be his mommy. God gave me this path to teach me many lessons. I can sit here and question all of the suggestions and things that therapists mention to me. But I choose to keep my head up and take action .

My kids are the reason I have big goals. Last year we spent over $2000 in copays. I want to be present for my children and give them more than I ever had. My kids are the reason I want to build a six figure business. I want to be successful so that we can move anywhere and I still have a job. I want to be able to afford college for my kids. I want to take that financial burden off my husband and we will be able to pack our bags and leave for the weekend whenever we want. I’m creating that freedom in my life by working this business. The only way to continue to do this is to work smarter. I’ve been focusing on time management. Penciling everything in my calendar is what really helps me. Separating business and family time is crucial. Its ok to be a mom boss. It most definitely is. I want to wake up each day and run my day. I don’t like when my day runs me. Through this journey of self love and self care, I am learning that it really doesn’t matter what happens to me . I am the author of my story and I choose to be the best mom I can be for my kids. I don’t have this all figured out and I don’t want  to. Deep down I know what matters is that I take care of myself whole heartedly from the inside and out. This means I need to continue doing the things that makes me feel good. Taking care of myself makes me feel good . Being present for my kids makes me happy.  God sent me this opportunity or me to show other mom’s that its ok to be stressed and overwhelmed. I will use my struggles to fuel me through my journey. We all have our problems. We all tend to over work ourselves and be hard on ourselves. Its important to put the pause button on every now and then and pay attention to our own needs. It does’nt matter what happens to you. What matters is what you do when something happens to you. Are you going to stay down when you fall or are you going to get up, dust yourself off and keep going  ? I choose to keep moving forward.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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New Year New You

Have you heard people tell you ” Your body will never be the same after kids!”img_0149
I sure have! Boy they were right! But guess what! It can be better! You CAN feel better than before kids! You might have a little skin here and there 😹But you CAN feel sexier! You CAN achieve anything your mind believes . Before my second , I lost a bunch of weight … by taking B12 shots AND abusing my body by not eating as good as I do now. I had massive self esteem issues although I seemed confident on the outside , no self control, no self discipline , and no love and appreciation for myself . I was so hard on myself too . I completely fell into a depression after my second. I am good at hiding my feelings but the people closest to me knew I was not in a good place. That’s when I decided enough was enough. I needed a positive change and boy did I get it! It hasn’t been easy , but it’s been worth every single step in the right direction! I know I’m exactly where I need to be and I know that some things happen for a reason. I’ve learned to love and accept things as they are , I can’t change people … only myself , AND I can still be a good parent loving myself also. Most importantly , I’ve learned that crazy things always happen and busy times are always going to be here . Just as one of my favorite motivational speakers said this am ” Learn to EMBRACE your struggles . ”
Just as I share in my private accountability groups , progress stoppers are all around us! It’s up to us to build the mindset .

 

Here are my top progress stoppers

Eating out too often
Over/Under Eating
Failure to plan your week or days out
No stress management
Sugar addiction
Too much alcohol
Lack of nutrient dense foods
Failure to believe in yourself
Failure to keep going
Failure to work on shifting your mindset

 
Do any of these apply to you? I find the hardest for me is stress and time management . But it’s all about taking it one day and one meal at a time!
If you are someone who needs a positive change in your life too, I would love to share this incredible journey with you and share every detail with you ! I believe anyone can truly do this. Even the most busiest of people. Change starts from within . Message me at Jaclyn@TheFitHairdresser and we can do this together! I am opening up registrations for my New Year New You Fitness and Nutrition Group. Lets make 2017 the best year yet!

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Leaning In To The Unknown

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The day we could finally bring him home.

Have you ever truly faced your fears in the face?

I feel Im in the process of some kind of  shift. This year has by far been one of those years full of growth and life lessons .  I still remember the day I took my son to his 6 month NICU follow up appointment and the Occupational Therapist told me she was going to refer him to Tri Counties to seek Therapy Services. At that time, I was so defensive and confused. I quickly told her ” Why ? Is there something wrong ? How do you know something is wrong when he is only 6 months ? ” I remember walking out of that appointment and immediately calling my mom and husband.I knew from that moment on that I had to be open-minded and take on anything that any medical professional suggested.

I truly know in my heart that my son is my miracle baby. I remember holding him so tight and crying because every time I was able to see him, he was hooked up to something new. I remember the pain of not being able to be with both my babies at the same time. I remember the nights I cried because he wasn’t with us when they said he might be able to come home soon. He constantly suffered heart rate drops and loss of oxygen. They could never tell me why except that breathing and eating were the hardest things a newborn had to do . He was able to do both, except it was a lot harder on him. My son was born with a congenital heart defect and an airway defect named  laryngomalacia. Larngomalacia is when a child is born with a malformation of the larynx. This meant that he had to work extra hard to breathe and to make a long story short, my husband and I barely slept the first 2 years.

As a result, his developmental milestones have been delayed. Our journey has been amazing. My son has taught me how important it is to truly speak up and follow my instincts. Our weeks are carved out with Speech, Occupational ,Behavioral, Physical Therapy, and an Early Interventionist. As we head toward three years old, a lot has come our way.He will begin his assessments to see what therapies he should continue on with. Whatever they refer for him, I will be sure to ensure proper therapy for my son.Im so happy I know what I know now and we will do everything in our power to make sure he is getting what he needs.  My beautiful daughter is blossoming into such a kind-hearted , beautiful soul. She loves her brother so much. She also tells me every single day how much she loves me and thinks I’m the best mom in the whole world. Hearing her little voice tells me that really brightens my day.  The busier I am, the more time just drifts away. I don’t want to miss out on a single thing. I feel like a bad friend. I never have time to call my friends and when I do, I’d rather be working on my businesses. Im learning to accept the things that I cannot change because the only thing I can change are my reactions to situations whether I can or cannot change the circumstances. My step mom is battling stage 4 cancer and my life is so hectic here. I wish I can be there to help support my dad and stepmom. I wish I can take all of this away. No one likes to see or hear about their loved ones suffering.I recently lost one of my closest relatives to brain cancer too. Losing her really slapped some sense into me. Before she got sick, we had some discussions about how important it is to leave the housework and the laundry. She knew about my OCD tendencies and shared with me that she regretted not letting it all pile up.  My mom has been cancer free now for 2 years and seeing both of these beautiful woman endure all of what they had to go through really motivates me to be an advocate for a healthy lifestyle. Its so important. Its not about weight or a scale. Its about taking care of yourself mind , body, and soul. Even though my aunt is no longer here with us, I feel her in my heart encouraging me to keep doing what Im doing.

The day my daughter finally met her little brother
The day my daughter finally met her little brother

I have my days , like last week, where I completely felt like I was  failing at this whole mom thing. I know why. I slacked on waking up early to do my daily devotionals and personal development. I wasn’t writing down my thoughts and journalling my goals and to do list. I was a mental mess.  Im such a self- driven individual with an entrepreneurial mindset. I love working for myself and have always been motivated to work . Is it selfish that I love working ? Is it selfish that I want to be able to work toward having time and financial  freedom with my kids? No it’s not. I don’t care what anyone says either. It is possible to work and be the best mom you can be . I want to continue to raise confident kids who will remember that their mom was here for them.  I gave myself a few days to get out of my own mental pity party and had to snap myself back into reality.

Im so blessed. I’ve experienced the good and the bad.  Im doing the best I can. I wake up and take on each day as it comes and every day it’s a struggle between my mindset and I. Thanks to my wonderful mom who has taught me how important mindfulness is. Are you really aware and present everyday ? Whats really helped me are my workouts. Before I really became dedicated to taking care of myself, I was in denial. I threw out the ” Im too busy card ” . I constantly told myself that there was absolutely no way I could img_1059get into shape by working out at home. One day I just let go all of my excuses and signed up for a discount to afford my favorite superfood shake. Here I am today. Thriving and more happier than ever! I still have all the same problems except Im so much stronger mentally. I love my kids and my dreams are still there. I will get to them at the right pace and the right time. God is in charge and my number one job is to be an amazing mom and wife. I can’t do that if I don’t take  care of myself.  In fact, Im still working hard toward them and as a result, I have an outlet. Ive found new passions and have learned that not every day is promised . Everyday I wake up and thank God for this beautiful life Ive been blessed with. Not everything has to go our way. Its about making the best out of every single situation and not letting the opinions or voices of others get to us. Its about giving back and raising others up. Ive also learned to completely put the opinions of other mom’s out of  my head. It’s not about how smart your kid is . Its not about about whether your kid eats his or her vegetables or if you’re a PTA mom. Its also important to not compare your chapter to someone else’s. It’s about taking it one day at a time.  A mom knows her child and knows whats best for her child.

For now, I will continue to embrace our struggles and thank God for all I have. I know that if he puts us through it, he will get us through it. Leaning in to the unknown is required. It’s about having faith and working toward constant growth.  I know Im right where Im supposed to be.

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Time Saving Tips With The 21 Day Fix

I am beyond excited about taking on the month of November. I am well aware that it will be a  busy month for all of us in general. But guess what? Every month seems to be busy when you’re a parent. Business at the salon tends to pick up too. Clients also bring homemade treats! Adding in the holiday season makes it easy to fall off track. But re-committing, refocusing, and applying the consistency each day will allow us to develop, achieve , and maintain some healthy habits.

“ Wake up early and be willing to do things that other people wouldn’t do so that you can achieve remarkable things “

This is what I find myself saying on those days I really don’t want to get out of my warm covers. Since I’ve began my fitness journey, I’ve realized the importance of learning to goal set. Sure its easy to set goals and write them down. But the hardest part is learning to break down our goals and taking action .It’s those small daily changes that really compound into something greater in the long run. This is how you gain momentum, motivation, and self discipline.

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment ” Jim Rohn

Most people want to give up when things get tough, when they get tired, or they simply feel like they have a lot going on. In my accountability groups, I love teaching others to be proud of themselves day by day and week by week .It’s when we fill ourselves with overwhelm that we let our mindset and fears get to us. I teach the importance of learning to love and appreciate yourself for all that you are because at the end of the day, it’s the non scale victories that matter most. Life is tough. We will always have highs and lows. It’s the strong mindset that we need to adopt. No one is born with it. Its something that’s planted in us and it grows over time through those small daily actions. But just like anything worth having,  you have to work at it.

I’m really excited to have a lot of people interested and taking that leap to care for themselves. All of us are  on our own journey and its important to start somewhere. It doesn’t matter where or how, but as long as we do.  It isn’t easy, but its worth it. The more you wake up and revisit why and how bad you want this, the more you will want to keep going.

I have a lot of customers interested in 21 Day Fix and our latest program Core De Force this month. When I first began my journey, I started with the 21 day fix. I did 3 rounds of it and lost 30 pounds because I truly committed to following the meal plan and fueling my body with superfoods. Was it easy ? Yes Was it easy to stick to ? No. There were some days I was so exhausted from work and parenting that I wanted to give in. I always ended up regretting the days I failed to plan. It is in the days when we don’t plan that we tend to fall off track and want to reach for anything and everything.  But the more you stick to it, you will see and feel results. I love how much the 21 day fix taught me about how much I was truly overeating .

Before you get started, I want to stress the importance that planning can take some time to get used to if you’re new to healthy ingredients or portion control, but with a little practice, you will see just how easy it is to get your clean eating on track. Below are step by step instructions for planning your meals and some tips on healthy eating.

  1. Calculate Your Calorie Level and Daily Container Count. Whether you’re trying to lose weight , gain weight, or maintain weight, calculating your proper daily calorie goal is essential to reaching your goals. Once you figure out your daily calorie count, you will then be sure to calculate how many containers in each food group you will be allowed each day.
  2. Write Down A Sample Day Of Meals. Now its time to start planning. Go through the food lists on page 24-39. Read through the pages and mark down some of  your favorites under each container color . Then using a meal planner, plan a simple day. This will get easier to do the more you do it. Think about what types of food you will like to have at each meal and include some of your favorite healthy snacks. Don’t be afraid to keep things simple.

Tip: Keep things simple and know that the foods at the very top of each list are the foods that are the most nutritious for you . Think abo0ut what you would like to eat for the next 3-5 days. Would you like to have the same things for breakfast each day? What about lunch? Will you be having leftovers for your lunch the next day ? Its important to keep all of these things into consideration because it saves you time and a hassle once you have it all planned out. Decide whether or not you’d like to switch things up every other day. What will you have as your snacks? Think about which” free foods ” you will add and always remember the awesome thing about this program. The awesome part of this all is that you’re not starving yourself, you are eating plenty , and you have room to substitute a sweet treat for a yellow or orange container each week.

3.Make A Grocery List. Set yourself up for success by writing out your grocery list and sticking to it. Don’t be like how I used to be and forget your list every time you go shop. You end up spending way more than you need to by getting things you simply don’t  need. I recommend basing your grocery list off the foods you need to eat for the next 3-5 days. Its important to consider your time. time-saving-tipsWill you have time to cook and prep some foods either on the weekend or every night before? Figure out a system that works best for you and your schedule. Don’t give up either if it feels hard to you. Nothing worth having comes easy . Remember that you’re doing this for you and that real abs are made in the kitchen. Not in the gym .This is why I love the 21 day fix .

Here are a few of my favorite time saving meal prepping tips :

  1. Buy pre- cooked chicken or fish . Watch out for sodium. Organic chicken is best to ensure you don’t get hormones or antibiotics passed on from the animal.
  2. Choose Canned tuna for quick meals. I’m not a canned tuna person personally, but my husband is. Throw it on some ezekiel toast or seaweed and you have yourself a meal.
  3. Buy pre-cut fresh veggies or pre cut them as soon as you get home and store in refrigerator where you can see them because it saves you a lot of time. Same goes for your fruit. Store your fruit within visible areas when you open up your refrigerator.
  4. Hard boil several eggs at once for quick high protein snacks or to add in salads.
  5. If you have sweet potatoes in your meal plan, its easier to make then all at once. I always regret when I don’t.
  6. Pre cook enough brown rice or quinoa for your week. I make a batch and store in a clear container. I measure out my yellow container whenever I’m going to eat some.
  7. Carrots, cucumbers, bell peppers are easy healthy snacks you can cut and prepare ahead of time and are perfect salad toppings too
  8. If you’re mornings are hectic, plan already made breakfasts such as egg muffin such as these http://thefithairdresser.com/egg-tin-muffins/or premade oatmeal. Consider when you will be having your shakeology as a meal. Maybe mornings are best for you. Maybe its best in the afternoon. Play around with your schedule and your meals and you will figure out what’s best for you .
  9. Stock up on berries and fruits that don’t take a lot of time to cut up and store.
  10. Raw , unsalted nuts make a great portable snack. You can measure out ahead of time because nuts are easy to overeat.
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Reflections

Have you ever had one of those days when your emotions just get the best of you?

I was supposed to have my thyroid removed last Monday. The reason I scheduled my surgery in the first place was so that I didn’t have to worry about this nodule situation turning cancerous anymore .But recently something just clicked. I was trying to just remove it all while not really knowing why my body is reacting this way.  I’m trusting myself to follow my own lead and go where my heart takes me. These last few years have been an emotional rollercoaster and when I decided that my circumstances have nothing to do with the outcome, I decided to take my own lead. I decided to make my health a priority. Its important not just for me, but for the lives of my family.  I’m focusing on being strong , not skinny. Its about health, not weight. I know that good things take time and nothing comes easy.  I’ve already changed my lifestyle , and I’m not on a diet. So now its time to really dig deep and try to find the root of this problem. I have nothing to lose. I trust my doctors and I’ve had multiple opinions. The answer I’ve gathered is  that there is no rush to remove them unless the nodules are cancerous.

As I was prepped for my biopsy, they told my husband he needed to leave the room. He was there for support and I’m totally appreciative. But as I look in his eyes, I see worry. I can see right through him. We both have a lot going on, but at the end of each day, it comes down to being present with each other.

Before they began the procedure, I closed my eyes and started having all of the tears come down my face. Not tears of fear, but just flat out an emotional mess. I’m assuming they thought I was a wacko. I swear I’m not. I just hold on to a lot of things. But I’m so proud of myself because everything I’m doing is the right thing. I don’t regret cancelling my surgery. I don’t regret wanting to try homeopathic. I am glad that I’ve chosen to take care of myself. I’m finally making myself a priority by making my workouts a priority , by watching my nutrition and really fueling my body with the best foods as often as I can, letting loose when necessary is important , and by making sure I’ve tried everything before I have my thyroid removed. The thought of me having to take a chemical to produce my thyroid hormone for the rest of my life and have to depend on it to ensure my metabolic function is regular is just something I’m not ready for . I’ve worked so hard to be where I’m at today. I don’t want to worry about making sure my thyroid function is normal , because if it isn’t, I run the risk of being depressed , having hair loss, becoming more moody, and so many other issues down the road. To be honest, I never really took the time to really research the importance of our thyroid until recently. Like I said, I am always putting myself last because I am busy with my kids, my marriage, and my businesses.

I accept who I am. I am learning to view my body as an incredible gift and honoring it. It’s important to treat it with love and care. If it wasn’t for seeing my mom go through her battle with breast cancer, my son with his birth defects,and my step mom battling her cancer, then I probably wouldn’t view my body as a temple like I do now. Our body is only one aspect of us. The mind and spirit are equally different. Its a quest for true happiness and healing. Self – image is only one part of it and the world is so full of people who are too busy to care for themselves. I want to consistently try to remain as present as I can. As I get older, the more I realize I don’t know everything and I think that’s a good thing. I strive to always learn and be a curious person.

Because of this coaching opportunity and really digging deep into improving myself, I’ve been able to help people, help myself, give people great experiences, share this lifestyle with others, help motivate people to get started , help people see that our health should be a priority, and teach my own family this way of living. I don’t know everything. I share what I believe in , what I’ve done with my health, and why I believe anyone can do it too. Its about really wanting to become the best version of yourself.

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Moms On A Mission

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As a mom and a very busy mom, I know that the STRUGGLE is REAL!!! I know that you are being pulled in a million different directions and the last thing that you want to worry about is what you are eating and when you are fitting in your workout. I also know at the exact same time you are wishing you could fit in those jeans, wear that dress for that event, feel comfortable trying on new clothes, and most importantly….. gain more energy for the kiddos!

So what did happen?!

I committed to 21 day fix, 21 day fix extreme, Hammer and Chisel, and Insanity. I learned about clean eating, I drink Shakeology daily and I have lost over 50 lbs . I have completely changed MY own life and the lifestyle habits of my family in the process. My husband even lost 30 lbs by me changing the way I cooked our dinners. Now my kids know the difference between good and bad choices and they are well aware of when they have to0 much sugar. I let them be kids though too.  I love that our kids see us as a healthy family and one that places a priority on exercise! What started out as something I was doing for myself and my own self confidence has become a decision that is positively impacting my family and those around me!

I’ve learned to care for my body and mind  along the way and I have a passion for sharing it to other people. Remember this is a lifestyle, not a diet! It’s important to know that you CAN have the best of both worlds. You just have to start. Our children learn by example and not by advice.

 

In this 30 day private group, we will set our goals, I will teach you how to clear out the old and bring in the new, give you recipes, a meal plan outline, suggestions and together we will start working out on November 14th. This is just in time to get us ready for the holidays. Don’t be the mom that decides to start in January. The best time to start is now because as moms, we are ALWAYS busy no matter what.

Comment Im in or email me at Jaclyn@Thefithairdresser.com and I will be in contact with you. Lets keep working on our goals together!

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Nothing To Lose

One thing Ive learned this year is that life is way to short to not take any chances. Things don’t always go our way and sometimes its best to not even try to work against it. I truly believe God throws things at us and we can choose to learn and grow, or we can stay in the same place.

Over years ago, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer and I had  found out I was pregnant with my son around the same time. My husband was about to have surgery and I believe our bodies hold on to stress in different ways. Months later, my doctor found that my neck had been swollen. She asked if I had that for a while and truthfully I didn’t even notice. She mentioned we should keep an eye on it. So we did. She sent me for an ultrasound and blood work. I found out I had two nodules and a goiter in my thyroid. I had to have a biopsy to make sure I didn’t have cancer. I found out that nodules are lumps or swellings in the thyroid gland.

Since then, I’ve had two different opinions, 4 biopsies, and many ultrasounds to monitor. These nodules have grown. Im not in a lot of pain, but there are times when I sure can feel them. Some days my neck swells up more than others, some days I feel it when I swallow as if I’m swallowing the wrong way,, and forget getting massages on my upper back. My situation is interesting to my endocrinologist because Im only 30 and nodules are only common in middle aged woman. My thyroid function fluctuates from good to a little low , but nothing serious. But you know whats serious to me? The fact that the cells can potentially become cancerous! I will never forget the first endocrinologist who I went to, as he mentioned not to worry because thyroid cancer is the best cancer to have because its curable!

Really. You can bet I don’t go there anymore.

The C word scares me so bad and deep down I have the gut wrenching feeling. Everyone knows someone with cancer. Its so sad. My own mom had cancer twice and I have relatives who’ve either passed or are in remission. My step mom is battling cancer. Its as if my world feels so dark at times. I wish there was something I  could do to help take her pain away. It scares me so bad that I was fed up with biopsies. Im not going to lie, its very uncomfortable, but I’m a strong woman . I was so fed up, I told my doctor I was ready to just remove these nodules which meant I would have to remove more than half of my thyroid to get these nodules out.

I have so much going on with my children and life in general. Im so fixated on being a parent that I really didn’t sit down to do my research. I joined a thyroid nodule support group. I was already having pre surgery jitters. I kindly introduced myself and let them know my situation . Do you know that most of them expressed to me that I should try iodine support through a homeopathic doctor. They mentioned that if I have the opportunity to keep my thyroid, I should try to. Some attached links for me to read some studies done There was one woman with 21 nodules who tried both Iodine and Sillenium and was able to shrink and make them go away!

I woke up the next morning experiencing massive anxiety. I told my husband I know Im nervous about my surgery, but I will regret at least not trying this option. I know I will. Thank goodness I already have a great homeopathic, Larry Perman who I called. I spent some time with him on the phone and he encouraged me to come back in because it had been over two years since I’d seen him .

He didn’t even recognize me. He asked me how I lost all this weight and I told him I’ve been on a journey of really taking care of myself by eating healthy, drinking shakeology, and 30 minutes of working out daily. To my surprise, he actually was very familiar. That made me feel great. It feels so nice to know that Im taking care of myself in the best way possible, and now it’s really time to take care of my body even more. I don’t want cancer. I don’t want to make myself susceptible to having to take a synthetic drug to control my thyroid function either. I don’t want metabolism issues, hair loss issues, a higher chance of mood changes, depression, and a risk of ruining my parathyroid glands. It doesn’t happen to everyone and its very common for people to have to take Synthroid and Levoxothrine to make that hormone for them. Its very common. I see so many clients on a daily basis who have hair issues and img_0152turns out they have thyroid issues. The problem is that blood work isn’t always accurate. I truly believe there is something going on in my body that the doctors can’t help me with .

So Im at this point where Ive chosen a new route on my journey. I don’t regret it one bit and Im so glad I talked to my husband that morning and told him I felt I was doing the wrong thing by just saying ” Ok take it out “.  I need to try to get to the deep root of my problem and really treat my body like the machine that it is and see what it is capable of. I cancelled my surgery. I scheduled a new biopsy next week, I saw Larry , and I just began detoxing my body from harsh chemicals, metals, and fungi. Im also about to start taking Thytrophin to begin nourishing and fueling my thyroid gland.  I will be on this plan for about a month or two and then begin a healthy food- based plan of action with Iodine supplements. Im nervous. Im excited. I have nothing to lose.

Do you ever wonder why so much stuff gets thrown our way? I sure do. I hate complaining. I hate worrying. I have no time to worry. I will not let this get to me. I have kids I need to parent. I have a family who loves me. I have a very sick step mom who I love and wish I could take her pain away. I have a qtq80-4503mfbeautiful aunt who I miss so much up in heaven I know rooting for me. She endured so much pain and fought hard with never once complaining. I will never forget her words to me ” I don’t know what God has in store for me anymore,  but I just have to go for it . ” I have a strong mom who can over come cancer twice. I have a son who teaches me patience daily even when I feel I don’t have it. So many un fair things happen to us, but its not in our control . We all know so many people going through far worse then us, but sometimes its nice to have an outlet for your thoughts and worries. For me, its my working out, personal development, and blogging to express myself.
Im going through something right now and I know God is preparing me for something. Im not sure what. But I feel it. I have nothing to lose, but only gain.

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Why Do We Lose So Much Hair?

I feel like one of the most common questions I get asked is about hair loss. A lot of woman experience hair loss. It can be so stressful to see clubs of your hair everywhere.  What are the reasons we lose hair? Why am I shedding hair so much?
Well to be honest , I’m not a doctor. But here are a few reasons we get so much hair in our drains, on the floor, and pretty much anywhere . Ive learned all of this from the 11 years I’ve been doing hair. According to the American Academy Of Dermatology, its normal to shed between 50-100 hairs a day. I always tell my clients that there’s a difference between hair loss and hair shedding.Excessive hair shedding can be caused by some of the following stressors listed below.

1. You’ve lose weight. Weight loss can”shock” our hair follicles and cause them to go into a shedding phase ( accidents, trauma, illnesses can cause too!)
If you’re healthy , you’re hair will grow normally once your weight stabilizes and
you’re nourishing your body! I know one of the reasons my hair loss improved is because of the quality of foods I’m putting in my system!
2. Tight hair styles. Too tight weaves , braids, constant up dos … can cause our hair to thin over time!
3. Poor Diet. certain vitamin deficiencies . Vitamin D and B weigh heavily with hair growth and loss. I recommend Bioton! Speak with your Dr if you think you have a deficiency or have an under/over active thyroid. A lot of times our meds have bad side effects such as hair loss too! Again, I’m not a dr 👌🏽
4. You just had a baby. many moms experience sudden hair loss postpartum . Not all. ( including myself in my fringe area) when we’re pregnant our bodies produce more estrogen which makes hair stay on our head longer. So after birth, our hormones are regulating . So we have a period of excessive shredding  It gets back to normal though

If any of these apply to you, don’t worry. Your hair will get back to normal. Just be sure to nourish your body with vitamins and hydration.

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