How many of us start something new and give up when we encounter the first obstacle ?
Many people think that having a speech delayed child is no big deal. Of course its not a big deal until you actually have a child with a speech and language delay. It is definitely not the end of the world and all children develop at different stages on their own time. But it can be so overwhelming at times.
” How do you know my child is at high risk for delays ?”
These were the first words out of my mouth after an occupational therapist suggested early intervention. How could this woman tell me this when she barely knew my child for 20 minutes and he was ONE years old. He was fussy that day . I found myself getting so defensive and hurt. I honestly did not know how I felt .
As a mom, this is a big deal.
It hurts just to get those child development evaluations about your child’s current stage. Start learning colors? He doesn’t even speak clear. Everything is blue or yellow.
Saying shapes ? He doesn’t pronounce his name right. It hurts to hear all those stories about how other kids someone knows started talking late or how common it is. You don’t want your child to be behind. You don’t know if your child will get picked on or mocked for not talking.You never really know if you’re making the right decision. But you learn to trust your gut and be an advocate. Kids are mean sometimes. They already notice that he doesn’t talk and point it out. They call him a baby. You don’t know if your child is hurt by it because he can’t even tell you .
The constant fears settle in from time to time. Will my child be able to be mainstreamed ? Will he outgrow this ? Will his diagnosis turn into something else ? It hurts and is frustrating having a child who is speech delayed. It also hurts to admit that because you feel horrible saying it. I feel horrible saying my son has special needs. But I shouldn’t. My son is amazing. He is so smart and one of a kind. He is always smiling and I know he is happy. This is a new and special journey. No mom wants her child to be behind or suffer. Every mom questions if it was something she did wrong, or didn’t do, when her child has any issue. The self-blame is strong.
When my son had a rough start in to the world, I blamed myself. Did I do something wrong ? Was it because Im a hairdresser and Im around chemicals ? Did I eat something wrong ? I had absolutely no idea my son was going to be born with an airway and heart defect. I had no idea it could lead to his delays. I had no idea my son could qualify for a diagnosis of intellectual delay.
Truth is , none of it matters because Ive learned that I can only stress about certain things until I cross those bridges. He is my miracle. My children are my everything . I will do everything in my power to be the best advocate and support for them .
It hurts to be told not to worry about the speech delay. He will outgrow it. It hurts to be asked ” What is wrong with your son ? ”
That’s easy for someone to say who hasn’t gone through it, or whose kid advanced with therapy and was done with it almost before they even started. Your child still struggles no matter how hard you feel like you give.
It hurts to see your child struggle. It’s a helpless, frustrating feeling to see what he goes through and to not be able to make it all better as fast as you want it too. It hurts knowing how fast time flies as you head to therapy and your child has a much busier schedule than you . Its exhausting.
Its both beautiful priceless. My son is a gift from God and he has taught me so much about life in general. I love my children and Im so blessed to be their mommy.
I’ve had a lot of questions in my Wellness Workshop regarding complex carbs and proteins .I’ve had some questions about how to eat clean or fuel your body so that you see maximum results from your workouts. There was a time when I was considered insulin resistant and my endocrinologist sent me to see a nutritionist . I learned a lot about how our bodies react when we eat the right foods together.
Here is what I know : Any diet that restricts any of the three macronutrients- carbs, proteins and fat is bad news. Each member of this trio is necessary for your body to function properly. But how much do you need of each? Well here we go, I am going to tell you!
There are 2 types of carbs, simple and complex. Simple carbs are also known as sugars (often white foods such as flour, rice, sugar and others). They break down easily and tend to send blood sugar levels out of control.
For the most part, you want to avoid simple carbohydrates, with the exception of fruit. Fruits are simple carbs, but they contain vital nutrients and vitamins as well as fiber, which slows digestion.
Complex carbs are high in fiber and improve digestion. They provide you with energy, keep you satisfied after meals and stabilize blood-sugar levels. Vegetebles, fruits and whole grains are all complex carbs. They fall into 3 categories.
Starchy Complex Carbs from Whole Grains
• Brown Rice
• Cream of Wheat
• Wheat Germ
• Whole-grain pasta
Starchy Complex Carbs from Vegetable Sources
• Beans • Carrots
• Split Peas
• Sweet Potatoes
High Water Complex Carbs
• Brussels sprouts
Complex Carbs from Fruit
• Citrus Fruits
Protein is primarily found in meat, poultry, fish and eggs, but is also found in dairy and to some degree in vegetable and grain sources. Tofu, chia seed, quinoa and hemp seed are complete proteins. Other plant based protein sources must be eaten in combination in order to be complete. For example, the chickpeas and sesame paste in hummus combine to make it a complete protein.
• Beans of all kinds
• Beef tenderloin
• Canned salmon, packed in water
• Canned tuna, packed in water
• Chicken breasts
• Fresh fish (cod, salmon, tilapia)
• Lean ground turkey
• Low-fat cottage cheese
• Natural nut butters(almond, cashew, peanut, ect)
• Plain non fat yogurt
• Pork tenderloin
• Unsalted raw nuts and seeds
Healthy fats are an equally important part of the macronutrient triad. In fact, they offer the most energy and help with the absorption of vitamins A,D, E and K. Better still, they are necessary for keeping you warm, protecting your organs and for optimal brain functioning. We’ve been afraid of fats for a long time, but it’s time to embrace the healthy ones, steer clear of trans fats and use saturated fats in moderation.
• Avocado oil
• Coconut oil
• Flaxseed oil
• Grapeseed oil
• Hazelnut oil
• Nuts and seeds of all kinds
• Olive oil
• Pumpkinseed oil
• Sesame oil
• Sesame seeds
I hope you find some of this info useful when it comes to how to pair foods together. Pairing a protein , healthy fat, and a complex carb together will keep you full longer, stabilize your blood sugars, and it will allow your food to metabolize better.
To join my amazing Wellness Community or If you have any further questions, be sure to email me at Jaclyn@TheFitHairdresser.com
This group will be specifically designed for the people who have been following me for some time and want to get started on their own health and fitness journey .
This group is for those people who are not quite sure they want to commit to a full month of clean eating , 30 minute excerces, meal planning , and starting a new lifestyle!
It looks and seems overwhelming in the beginning, but I PROMISE it gets easier and I am by your side every step of the way 🤚
I love clean eating and the principles. I started this journey about a year ago and have been able to lose 60 lbs and transform our lifestyle with the way we fuel our bodies. I am really excited to share with you a brand new tool to help you understand the basics of clean eating , introduce you with 30 minutes a day of workouts just 4x a week, and a sampler of shakeology if you would like to try !!!!!
The good news is that this new program , CLEAN WEEK, will let you “ try” and jumpstart this lifestyle for just 7 days and no strings attached!
It’s one week long and will show you HOW easy it is to make healthy choices and give you confidence to take this another step further .
The best part is you do not have to fully commit to a challenge pack, you can sample this , test it out , be part of my amazing community , and let me teach you how to plan and prep, keep you motivated, and share some tips with you!
This group and program is great for beginners of ALL ages who have tried a fitness program and failed or haven’t started because they’re afraid to fail. This is your answer guys !
The first step in making better choices and building better habits is giving it a shot! If you stick with this for the full 7 days, you will start to see and feel changes in your body and be ready to continue on with your journey!
If you’re interested, click going and I will be in contact with you
It’s the start to a new month and this happens to be my most favorite time of year! Holidays are coming up before we know it , the kids are keeping us busy, life is busy, and it seems to never end right ?
I was mentally so I made sure to recoup. Let me share with you some of my tips for taking care of yourself mentally , because it’s not only about exercise when it comes to health and fitness
1. Journal. A way I like to look at this is calling it a brain dump. It’s one of my favorite things to do . Anytime I feel overwhelmed or mentally cluttered, I wrote everything down from my dreams, visions, thoughts , goals, and it really helps . Anything.
2.Do Something You Enjoy Doing That Relaxes You. Ever since I was a young girl, I’ve always enjoyed getting “ lost “ in a good book and that rarely happens now that I have two kiddos. But I enjoy reading so I make time for it . When I’m feeling exhausted, I make time to just chill out and read or write . If I have a cup of tea or coffee in hand, I’m even better! It helps me relax my mind. This can be anything from shopping for a new shirt to meditating. Whatever it is that you enjoy doing that relaxed you.
3. Don’t Do Anything. This one means everything to me because I am horrible at this. Sitting down and getting the time to read a book is plenty for me. I’m always finding something that needs to be done. I know you mom’s feel me right ? I’m working on this. I try to remind myself that the things I need to do will always be there no matter what . It’s ok to do nothing because it refreshes you.
4. Go Out And Get Some Fresh Air. This might not be true for everyone , but Annie deep breath of fresh air does so much for Our soul. Take that fresh air to the beach and you have yourself a recipe for relaxation.
5.Reflect. I think some people forget to stop and reflect on a daily basis. This is one of the reasons I enjoy my morning routine. It allows me to reflect on all things including gratitude. My mindset is in such a better place . I struggle with along of things, but I will say that i excel in reflecting and being grateful for where I’m at today. It can be worse and there is always someone out there that has things way worse than you. I’m doing what I can to be the happiest and best version of myself rather than losing myself in life and doing everything for others. Everyone must set aside time to stop and reflect . You’re never going to get off the hamster wheel ( life ) if you don’t .
I hope these nuggets help you as much as they help me. Throughout my 30’s , I’ve been focusing on taking care of my mental health rather than just my physical health . It’s making a huge difference ! We must always make time to grow and learn.
“Difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations”
Can this be any more true ?
Difficult Roads always lead to beautiful destinations. Here we are … on this beautiful yet difficult journey .
I was having a deep convo with a client and we were talking about life as a special needs Mom. I’m gonna be flat out honest. I don’t see myself as a special needs Mom. I see myself as an extra needs parent. I’m still getting used to saying it out loud . I don’t even know . I’m on this journey at this very second and I believe I’m doing everything I possibly could.
A difficult road I’ve been on is accepting a diagnosis for my son. Does this mean he will be in special ed ? Can I mainstream him? Will kids make fun of him? When will I be able to understand him clearly? Will be always have this diagnosis? How do you know? You barely know my son. Nothing is wrong with my son he is perfect. I truly believe my sons
Delays have everything to do with his lack of oxygen after birth and all the blue spells.
When I first found out about him qualifying for a development delay diagnosis , I was in shock ….Because I don’t see it like that. We could’ve said “ No we decline to accept “ but then I would be that parent who is in denial. We ultimately have decided to do what’s BEST for him.
I’ve come to find how so many parents don’t even know about all of the amazing resources and help there is out there . Get help for your babies EARLY if you ever suspect something . I was that exhausted and overwhelmed parent . I suffered from
Some depression . Our first years were tough, but these moments are amazing . Some
Parents out there are PRAYING to even have a baby.
I was that parent who “thought” she was making changes in her health by eating “ fat free” and “ sugar free “ trying to cope with her emotions. I was that angry parent deep down inside for many reasons. I lost
That difficult road has turned into an incredible journey . I’m so proud of our progress. I’m so proud of my
Son. He is perfect. He is so smart and he has taught me truly what I need to do to be a better parent . The acceptance of all of this is opening up these doors for us. I’m seeing a whole new world and meeting so many amazing special parents. Being a coach is my platform to share me and be vulnerable. It’s my platform to connect and help other like minded people. I’ve met so many amazing special parents like me on social media who have become some amazing support .
I am working on something though. I am super defensive. I am defensive when it comes to people asking me “ what’s wrong with my
Kid” and then offering advice. That I need to work on . Someone told me yesterday ( social worker ) that my son has a “ permanent disability “ if he has a diagnosis , and I immediately said “ how do you know that? He will outgrow all of this “
I shouldn’t have responded the way I did. This is all new to me . But I can definitely give off a really bad vibe if we don’t connect and I know she felt that . As a special parent , we should never feel ashamed to share our journey . People will always have an opinion no matter what . But I would never change our Journey . Things will play out the way it’s all meant to be . #blessed
Fall means pumpkin everything. I am not the biggest fan of pumpkin spice latte’s but I do enjoy one or two from time to time. But this my friends, was delicious!! I let my kids try it and my son did not want to let it go.
Starting the day with a workout and the right nutrition can make a world of difference with your choices for the rest of the day. For my fellow Shakeology lovers, this pumpkin pie spice recipe is delicious !!
Pumpkin purée counts as a purple fixate container ( fruit serving ) for those of you using the fixate containers.
Here is what I used
1 cup of almond milk
1/2 a purple of pumpkin purée
Handful of ice
Tsp of pumpkin spice
Tsp of cinnamon
1/2 tsp of nutmeg
Give it a try and let me know what you think! You can try it here.
For the next 4 weeks, I am going to help you develop your own routine now that the kids are back to school, the fall season starts ( this weather is confused I know!) and sports kick off!!
In my Wellness Workshop group, I am going to walk you through:
Setting realistic GOALS for your weight loss
Match you up with a fitness program to help you get results and shred those lbs.
Give you the tools to effectively create simple, family friendly meal plans
Give you the tools to help you with emotional eating, late night snacking, traveling, and more.
Teach you HOW to have a healthier and positive mindset, daily accountability, support and motivation!
This is NOT A CRASH DIET and only a LIFESTYLE change.
If you are ready to make a change now is the time!
HOW do you get started?
1. Complete the application here:
https://tinyurl.com/y8grfomv or email me at Jaclyn@TheFitHairdresser.com
2. You cannot already be working with another coach.
3. You must be willing to commit to both a Beachbody Fitness Program and Shakeology for the duration of the group.
4. You must be 100% committed to sticking with the program from beginning to end and trust the process !
Now is the TIME! Don’t wait any longer! Holidays are near. No more hiding behind baggy clothes. Its time to ROCK any outfit you want!
Make sure to fill out the application
One of the biggest struggles I hear from people say is how busy and hectic their schedules are .
I can totally relate. I don’t even know how I get by sometimes. We’re so busy that it makes eating healthy a real challenge. Convenient foods end up taking the place of healthy, nourishing food when we’re on the go, go, go all the time. These poor food choices put us on the hamster wheel of experiencing low energy, weight gain, and potential health problems.
It’s a never ending cycle right ?
What if I told you it didn’t have to be this way?
You don’t have to be a slave to your schedule and resort to quick and convenient fast foods that will only leave you feeling a crash .
It’s possible to eat healthy foods, even with a jam-packed schedule. It just requires a little bit of pre-planning to ensure success. You’ll feel better, have more energy, and your waistline will thank you too! When you start eating better, you will have more energy and you will not feel that usual late afternoon energy slump.
Here are a few tips Ive gathered for you .
There will always be plenty of things going on that will take you away from being home. This time of year our kids are starting school again and its back to the practices and extra curricular activities. Plan to make some time throughout the week to sit and look at your schedule. Make the sacrifice and cut out your favorite tv show or scrolling social media and gather your thoughts. What do you have going on this week ? What do you feel like eating this week ? Will you be eating leftovers for lunch ? What type of snacks will you be having throughout the week ? Take note and literally map out a plan for yourself. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but knowing you have everything on hand leaves you feeling fulfilled and less likely to run to the drive thru .
Don’t wait until the point that you’re starving to make food choices, as this will almost always lead to bad decisions. Instead, plan ahead, so you don’t have to rely on your willpower alone to keep you on track. Pack easy to carry healthy snacks, and keep them in either your purse or your vehicle. Invest in a lunch tote that can store your food for you . This way you always have healthy choices right at your fingertips.
You can also take some time to pre cut your fruit and veggies while you put them away after coming home from the store. This makes eating healthy easy . Since you will be taking some time to sit and plan out your plans for the week and mapping out a schedule for yourself, you will know what you need to buy at the store .I find storing fresh fruit and veggies in clear glass containers to be helpful. I also keep everything in the front of my refrigerator so I ensure I do not let it spoil. Plus, its the first thing my kids see when they open the fridge!! For example, pre cutting celery sticks and storing them makes peanut butter and celery sticks a great fast snack to take on the go or eat at home.
Just because you might be in your car or on vacation, doesn’t mean you should skip out from your health goals. You can still live a healthy lifestyle on road trips by packing healthy foods to eat in the car. You can pack a cooler to keep handy so you have easy access to snacks while on the road. If you’re planning on stopping at rest areas along the way, pack a yummy lunch to eat before you head back to your next errand or trip .Most of us spend several hours in our vehicles every week anyway running errands, stuck in traffic or being taxi mom’s. If we don’t plan ahead, it is easy to fall into the trap of thinking your too busy to take care of yourself. Being the busy mom that I am, I feel like Im always eating in my car . But I do not feel guilty because Im eating healthy fresh food that I wanted to eat. Eating healthy does not need to be boring or stressful.
I recommend starting this process easy and fun. Think of your favorite healthy food and make a list. So that you do not stress yourself out with what to eat, stick to the same thing for the week. Choose a few snacks you can eat. You should always aim to eat 5- 6 times a day . I enjoy my morning snack and my afternoon snack. I feel it keeps my energy up. Focus on eating small meals and be mindful of your portions. I will have to create another post all about portion control,
Here is a list of some foods that are convenient for a busy lifestyle
- Baby carrots and cucumber slices with hummus
- Sliced or whole apples with nut butter or sun butter
- Clementine or mandarin oranges
- Sliced or whole pears
- Smoothie (if you plan to drink it within 30 mins or so)
- Nuts and raisins (you can make your own trail mix)
- Pumpkin seeds (pepitas) and/or sunflower seeds
- Whole Food Snack Bars (such as Rx bars , )
- Sandwiches or wraps
- String cheese or cheese cubes
- High quality beef jerky
- Cut-up rotisserie chicken (keep cool with an ice pack)
- Hard boiled eggs
At the end of each day, I want you to give yourself a gut check . Just because you have had a busy day doesn’t mean we have to resort to fast food or processed foods for dinner. Sometimes its as easy as having one of t With a little extra though , you can make sure your family has healthy meals ready to go when you walk in the door. I love using my crockpot when I know I will be out all day long .
When you’re on the go, eating healthy doesn’t have to be such a struggle. Use the ideas I’ve mentioned here to sort through the junk and find only the most nutritious foods.