The last few months have been a little crazy. We’ve had so much fun getting out with the kids this summer. But truth is, I have no idea where June and July went. I can’t believe how fast the year is flying by. You with me ?
With the kids being off from school, our usual routine was thrown off. We had an amazing summer together and I try to always remember to give myself some grace in the midst of the chaos. We even had some relatives visit from out of state which was nice.
I’ve decided to turn my blog in to a documentary of our lives with a sprinkle of lifestyle and motherhood tips. It’s therapeutic for me. Things have been pretty tough this month and I can feel myself coming out of the funk I’ve been in . On a good note, I have been introduced with such amazing opportunities that continue to show me I’m doing exactly what I’ve been called to do in my life. We also just celebrated our 8th wedding Anniversary after being together for 17 years! We’ve been through so much together and I’m so grateful for it all. We’ve both grown so much since being little teens and our marriage is beautiful . We’re both busy with personal goals and projects all while trying to make time for ourselves. He is a keeper .
First off, do you ever look at your kids and just ask yourself ” Where the heck is time going ? ”
I can’t believe how fast my daughter is growing. She just started second grade . I look at her and I’m in awe with the little girl she is becoming. It seems like everything has been an argument lately and she sure enjoys making sure I understand that she is a big girl now. I just adore her and want to encourage her to be herself and speak her truth . This summer we took a break from Girl Scouts aside from having their Brownie Bridging Ceremony and camping at the zoo. Volunteering to be her Troop Leader has been an amazing experience .
I told myself that I would figure it out along the way because this is something that Ava and I can do together. Every now and then that mom guilt sets in and I think that I need to give my daughter more attention in the midst of this new extra needs journey with my son . Our new Troop season starts in October and I’m heading in to this new season positive and optimistic because I have one year under my belt. I’m learning as I go and this is such an amazing opportunity for our girls. I plan on delegating more with the parents , being more organized with my meetings, and creating some awesome memories with the girls! I’ve told myself that being busy is a privilege . Being busy is good as long as you stop to smell the roses and learn to give yourself some grace along the way .
My son just started preschool. He is 4 years old and this will be his second year of school. Its been a while since I’ve shared much about our journey in here . I guess you can say I’ve been a tad paralyzed with fear and the constant reminder that everyone sure has an opinion with how they think children should be raised or their way is the right way. The reality is that my reality is hard sometimes. One thing that was really bothering me was that anytime I shared anything , I felt like people or even my husband would say ” Why are you sharing that?” or ” Well… it doesn’t look like anything is wrong with your son ” Then I would feel like I was opening up myself to opinions that I just did not feel like hearing. I’ve come to realize that I’m not alone and some other parents have bigger problems . So if you can relate at all with my journey, please be sure to connect with me!
Truth is that there is nothing wrong with my son. He has an ability is how I like to see it . One thing I find super frustrating is how long it takes to just get some answers . Not just that, but I hate that children have to be labeled to get some help . My goal is to be the best mom I can be for my kids and to put my family first before anything. Elijah’s diagnosis at three years old was a speech and language impairment and a developmental delay. That is when a lot of doors to new resources opened up for us. For the longest time, my husband and I were so financially drained with co-pays, opinions, evaluations, check ups, and worries. We have found that we are his voice and we have to do whats best for him . Not just that, but those diagnosis’ mean nothing. We treat him normal except we’re learning more and more about how important it is to be patient and more understanding to his behaviors.
I’m blessed in the sense that I’ve been able to get my son some intervention since we was two years old. For the longest time, he was receiving early intervention, occupational therapy, speech, and physical therapy. We later added behavioral therapy too. I found an incredible therapy based preschool that is perfect for him and we discontinued therapy. Our local school district did not make it easy to get him qualified to get there and the whole process was long- But worth it .
My anxiety has been through the roof lately because I’ve been over- thinking and playing scenarios in my head about the transition from preschool to kinder. Then I start asking myself if this district is even right for him. The biggest hurdle are the tantrums and the behavioral and sensory issues he tends to have at times. I go back and forth about seeking ABA Therapy for him . I was hesitant about whether or not I should seek such an aggressive therapy for all of us . The worst part was that I finally decided to go for it because I do not want him to think that its ok to act the way he does when he doesnt get him way at times. He is such a smart cookie and super receptive. He understands everything you say . His attention span is super short at times, he has been having many accidents with potty training when he’s been potty trained for almost a year now , and he can get pretty defiant quick. It takes some work to calm him down. He gets loud, whiny, and will zone out when he gets over – stimulated. His vocabulary has increased and I hear him trying to say new words and sounds. He is constantly improving at his own pace and I just have to meet him where he is at.
Now I know it sounds like I’m complaining here, but this is my normal. This is what I’ve been dealing with and as Elijah’s mom, I only want whats best for him. So after finally calling to get approved for this therapy, ofcourse my PPO won’t cover it . So I tried with our secondary insurance for him and found out they would only cover him if he has a diagnosis of Autism. This is when reality sank in for me recently. There is a possibility that my child could be on the spectrum. Now I’ve been waiting for answers for the longest time but his pediatrician and director of his school both say sure he has delays that are similar, but he does not meet that box. I personally am not ready to have another psychologist evaluate my child. I would like to give it more time because Im already doing everything I need to do to get him the help he needs. We have a consultation next month for genetic testing and that alone is a lot to think about right now .
So in a nutshell, my thoughts and emotions have been all over the place. Answers will come and either way, it doesn’t matter to me if my child gets another diagnosis . A diagnosis does not define your child and only gets them more help. But sometimes I do feel like children are over diagnosed the second a medical professional evaluates them . That’s my personal opinion. But truth is, as his mom, I know him better than anyone. I know I sound like an in denial parent, but I’m just speaking from the heart here. This is all so new for me. He is a normal 4 year old little guy who loves nerf guns, playdoh, and tools. He loves people. He is social, friendly, compassionate, and outgoing. He even looks you in the eyes. I feel like sometimes they just want to put a label on your child in order to open up some additional resources for them. These thoughts I have are really hard for me to explain . But time, faith, prayer , and patience is what we have. I’m so thankful for his incredible team of teachers/ therapists who take the time to talk to me and and offer comfort and tips. We have to trust the process because everyone is unique and different.
Aside from heading to the salon on my work days, my workouts and my coaching business have been an amazing outlet for me. I’ve taken a step back in the sense where I’m focusing on family and marriage before anything. My wellness is the biggest priority right now and my wellness groups mean the world to me . I love waking up to my amazing rock stars striving to be better versions of themselves and making themselves a priority too. I’m blessed with this incredible gift of helping others live healthier and more fulfilling lives too. Beachbody has changed my life for the better. I do not know where I would be if I didn’t have these incredible workouts and nutrition guidance. The old me would be eating everything in plain site and probably at an unhealthy weight. My wellness journey and coaching business is a way for me to give back and feel good at the same time. Thank goodness my husband and I are on the same page and stronger than ever. If we weren’t, I think I would literally be broken . I’m so blessed .
They say when you’re feeling down, the best thing to do is to turn it around and use that energy to help others.
Sometimes we have to remember that life can get pretty messy . That’s just how it is. Our mess is what others might be praying for. I tend to keep myself super busy and I’m learning to let go and just slow down .
We have so much to be thankful for and I’m looking forward to our family vacation coming up!
2018 is going to be a year full of new experiences and more traveling on our end. I love traveling. Staying on track is super important to me!
Here are a couple things that I think are very crucial to staying on track during travel and I want to share a few of my best tips with you!
#1 – Control what you can control before you even leave! What I mean by that is to prepare. I bring all of my supplements with me and I bring snacks with me every single time I travel.
A couple crucial supplements that I bring with me are…
a) Shakeology: This is one meal of the day that I know is guaranteed to give me energy and the nutrients I need. I bring with me every single time I travel.
b) Probiotic: I know that digestive issues come up and bloating can be an issue for people when they travel, so I always make sure that I bring probiotics.
c. My pre workout: My pre workout gets me in the mood to workout even when I am not in the mood too.
Another thing that I bring with me in controlling what I can control is SNACKS! Macadamia nuts, cashews, raw almonds, turkey jerky, and some fruit.. I can bring all of those with me on a plane when I travel.
#2 – Your First Stop MATTERS! No matter what, no matter where I’m going or traveling to my first stop after the plane lands, or after we park the car is to go to the nearest grocery store and to stock up on things that I can have.
If I’m staying in a hotel, I will call the front desk before I land to see if I can get a refrigerator brought to my room. Often times they’ll bring you a refrigerator for free. Most times there’s already a refrigerator in your room. I’ve had a rare case where there is no refrigerator, and there’s no refrigerator available. In those cases I will bring a little cooler or buy a little cooler when I get there. I don’t need a lot, but every time I go to the grocery store I will get some almond milk, fresh fruit, and just a few other snacks. Maybe some goji berries, maybe a Larabar orRx Bar , some nitrate free deli meat, and a big case of water. Those are my crucial elements whenever I am traveling, and it just takes a quick stop at the grocery store and get those things.Most grocery stores even have pre made chicken that you can easily use to make a few meals . I enjoy simply buying a bag of salad and topping it with chicken. Fresh and light is the way to go with traveling . I usually try to splurge on one meal .
#3 – Plan workouts ahead of time! If you’re like me, when you travel you have very little time to squeeze a workout in. So I know that I have to plan to get my workout in BEFORE the day starts. Every time I travel I use my Beachbody On Demand and I will just workout from my iPad or my iPhone! I know I’ll have to get up before everyone else does and either take my workout to the hotel gym, take it to the stairs, the parking lot, or do it in the room with everyone else. I am perfectly fine doing my workout in a room with everyone watching me. I feel like that will either inspire them to workout with me, or bring a little entertainment value to the trip! Either way I am going to get my workout in. My workouts are my therapy .
HIIT workouts are awesome if you’re short on time. A Tabata is awesome if you’re short on time too. Bottom line you have to plan ahead for when you can get it in and when you can make it happen.
#4 – Eat to LIVE, don’t live to eat. To give you an idea of what my day looks like when I’m traveling; I always start my day with Shakeology. That way I don’t have to wait around to figure out what we’re going to have for breakfast. Then for my second meal of the day I always have something with me because I PLAN. So I will grab some of the groceries that I got from my grocery stop. When you’re traveling you have to be okay with things not being how they usually are. When you’re traveling you have to learn how to make changes and to be okay with things being a little bit out of order. Lunch may not be a big deal when you’re traveling, you may have to grab a bar on the go and that’s okay! Grab some fruit with it and you’ll be good to go.
As far as going out to eat when you’re traveling there is something that you have to take into account… If you’re on vacation you may indulge a little bit more here or there. \
At restaurants, I never look at what the menu has to offer “as is”. I always take into account the menu as a whole, I make adjustments, and I customize as I want to! I customize and adjust according to whatever they have. If they have fried fish tacos but they’re on flour tortillas I might ask them to grill the fish and put them on a corn tortilla instead. Basically you want to look at the menu, see what they have to offer, and put it all together as a customizable meal for you.
I did this recently at a restaurant… I ordered the turkey burger, but without a bun, and instead of mayo on top I asked to have mushrooms, bacon, avocado, sauteed onions on top. It was delicious and I LOVED IT! Just remember to look at the menu as à la carte. I know that it’s tempting to look at a menu and just say I’ll have a little bit of everything. When you’re traveling it’s important that you really take into account your goals and do your best to stay on track with that, and use the 80/20 rule.
#5 – MOVE MORE! Stay as active as possible. When you are traveling it’s very easy to just sit around, especially if you’re driving or flying.. but stay as active as possible!
Always take into account that you’re human and can only do the best you can! Have fun and do the best you can to MOVE and plan ahead of time.